You know that menu circulating on Twitter from the Warner Bros. Studio Cafe in 1941? I went straight to desserts. The slim selection is in keeping with the bodily demands of Hollywood. 
 
Poached prunes for me, with a heap of cultured cream the colour of okra flowers. 
 
I can order dinner backwards if the dessert menu is offered upfront. I won't start with the last course, but I like having it in mind. I can wait, too. When I'm confident of the pastry talent, it's another pleasure.
 
More gratitude on the way to sixty.
 
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Held up my middle finger to diet culture in January and baked a couple of fantastically moist, earthy cakes. For myself.
 
A Greek Walnut Cake (Karidopita) in the photo that had breadcrumbs in the batter and is soaked in brandy syrup. 
 
Made Gill Meller's Orange-Coriander Almond Cake. Shards of toasted coriander shells in the glaze looking like a seed head exploded nearby. A three-star life is having a slice after a bowl of homemade soup. 
 
My Levi's are getting tight. Hips over thigh gap is my new motto. 
 
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The first time I had molten chocolate cake, it was made by Jean-Georges Vongerichten in 1991. The lacquer quenelle of vanilla ice cream snugged against it melting to a puddle. Like me. Ecstatic.
 
My first year at the Stratford Chefs School. A Valrhona chocolate virgin. Royalty in the dining room that evening, too — Marcella and Victor Hazan. 
 
The culinary equivalent of being at Woodstock or Glastonbury.
 
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I was a French apprentice, a generalist trained to be a chef-owner. I know my way around pastry. Possessing that skill is something I’m proud of. 
 
My yardstick is baba au rhum, the yeasty pudding drenched in syrup and liquor. There are two that set the bar. One at Bouchon Abel in Lyon and the other at Edulis in Toronto. Tobey Nemeth serving crème Chantilly with a grace most of us will never possess. 
 
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I wrote this in 2021 about the tarte Tatin at Frenchette in New York City. "I can't look at that dimly lit picture without gasping a little."
 
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Don't make me eat dessert alone. 
Don’t fill me to bursting beforehand. 
 
Rules my favourite people follow.
 
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Something seductive to finish. Two songs from the same era.
 
Madonna's body of work is solid gold. I hope she sings and creates to her last breath. 
 
The rhythm in this version of Prince's Cream. A perfect song. 
 
"You're filthy cute and baby you know it"

© DEBORAH REID, 2023

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This pile says a lot about me. On the left are books that guided my professional life, and on the right are books that influenced my writing. The one on top straddles both.
 
The headnotes in Chez Panisse Cooking are stunning. I talked to Paul Bertolli about this, and he paid respect to Elizabeth David. My heart lit up.
 
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I’ve written about a few books. Generally, I read them a few times cover-to-cover and then ground myself in the writer/cook’s work. Out of respect. For my craft and theirs.
 
I have a pretty piece coming out soon on a book. The story was a joy to land and write. I felt lucky, and soon you’ll know why. 
 
If I hate a cookbook, I can usually tell you why in one sentence. Like, it doesn’t have an index. 
 
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Hearing a woman sing this song is sexy. I like Springsteen only a little. I’ve always respected how he shows up for unions and labour, like a genuine human.
 
From 17 to 23, I travelled around Canada — for work and study. The soundtrack of my life then included Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young. Hearing a song from Déjà Vu reminds me of night fires on Lake Cowichan, morning frost in August in Temagami, and sitting on the banks of the Otonabee River at Trent University. You can see and hear how good they were together. How fortunate we are that David Crosby was among us.    ​

So adorable. *pink neon light flickers on in my heart*

I'm happy as a clam in the bath. It must have been a fun place as a toddler because good feelings about it are still with me.  

More gratitude in the run-up to sixty. 
 
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I experienced severe physical anxiety in the days and weeks after quitting alcohol. My nervous system was constantly revving, and I shook. Vigorous exercise helped, as did massage. But neither was as good as the warmth and comfort of a hot bath. Some days I would have two. No thought to the cost. Looking for ways to get through another day.

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I see myself in Lee Price's intimate paintings -- women in tubs, mostly eating. The basics are beverages (plural), food, reading material, and the phone. No time limit. It's where I read and think freely. I want a bathroom with a comfy chair. For company. Think of traditional hammam or sauna culture. A social activity often with food and drink.  
 
I work in a cold building (and I dress for it). Last week I came home from work and sat in the tub for a couple hours before dinner. To warm up and relax. Can you tell I don't have kids?
 
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I was renovicted from a basement apartment in the Junction (may I never have to live below ground again). It was a terrible experience. I loved the neighbourhood and watched my place sit vacant for months while they slowly gutted the building. 
 
There was a Euro-spa tub deep enough to have built-in armrests. The water covered me completely. It had an angled backrest for comfort. There were jets. I didn't care what the rest of the place looked like. Put my money down. 
 
I won't look at an apartment with a shower. A hotel room without a bath is just okay.
 
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Let's talk about shimmying into narrow French bathtubs. Designed for nymphs. I've heard funny stories. The snug fit when I get in makes me feel halfway to being swaddled.

I spent one March break in Avignon, France. Ten of us in an oldish mansion. Most of us had a room. Someone locally had helped find accommodations. It was fun. 
 
I discovered Carrefour sold coconut bubble bath that smelled like drinking a virgin Pina Colada under a palm tree, on hot sand, and looking out at turquoise water. On the way back, I packed six bottles — sober for two or three years then. I've carried wine back and forth, just not on that trip.
 
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Show me a better Beach Boys song. I sing this chorus loud sometimes — in my own company. Sing it in the bath.

"I went over to Brian's with my new [tape recorder] and told him the name of the tune and sang those intervals, and he pumped out the rest of that song." Van Dyke Parks

No more than two inches end to end. Holding the tiny bracelet is interesting. I sense my smallness. It always makes me smile.

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In February, I turn sixty. I got here on one of those Japanese high-speed trains. The G force is real. 

I want to talk about the stuff that grows my heart in the run-up. Be grateful. 

Sixty is the new sixty.

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I was born into a golden age of music. Lived in a home with parents who loved it and had very different tastes. My mom played ballads, theatre, and movie soundtracks (I survived a long period of MacArthur Park). She listened to Elvis, Liberace, The Carpenters and Barbara Streisand. My dad listened to soul and rock — the Moody Blues, Cat Stevens, Mahalia Jackson, Roberta Flack, and Chicago. We watched all the music shows like Flip Wilson, Andy Williams, Ed Sullivan, and Mike Douglas. My mom's a night owl and ironed my dad's work shirts while watching Johnny Carson.

I heard David Bowie echoing in a big house for the first time in 1974. Rebel Rebel, muffled but loud from behind a closed second-floor bedroom door. My grade six friend Ann had older brothers who had returned from an extended stay in London, England. Who had ever heard anything like it? At eleven years old...Diamond Dogs. And the wild album cover! 

I liked being near the stereo at parties as a teen girl. Still do. There was always someone to talk about music with. I read Creem and Circus and sometimes Rolling Stones. Songs, albums, and collections tell a story about a person. I had some rich conversations. 

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There was always music playing, and it left a beautiful imprint. My little ears knew to tune in early. Thinking right now about hugging my mom and dad. Heart against heart. Flickering pink neon light.

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I did one of those silly Instagram things: Your 2023 will be like the hit single from when you were fifteen.

Staying Alive. Released in December 1977 and top of the charts two months later in February 1978. The Bee Gees are more evidence of having grown up in a golden age. 

This song was playing fucking everywhere — your doctor's office, aunt Julie's house, Tim Horton's, your best friend's parents' living room. It makes me think of a young, pre-scientology John Travolta poured into a pair of white pants. Inspiration for some late-night solo fun at fifteen. Andy Gibb looking real good, too.

Shining Star, Earth, Wind and Fire. That horn section. They were bonafide showmen. And twelve-year-old me dancing in front of the television on Saturday afternoon with Soul Train. I'm paying respect to Fred White (there goes that high-speed train again).  

You're a shining star
No matter who you are
Shining bright to see
What you could truly beat you could trul

One word for the year ahead.

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Some things I liked in 2022:

​“Fuck wisdom. Just get in there, and don’t be afraid to get your hands bloody.” Brute Force by Summer Brennan.

Hell's Grannies by Monty Python. How perfect is Eric Idle? 

Anderson Cooper's candour in All There Is. The episode, Sadness Isn't An Enemy, deals with his brother's suicide. It's about the process of grief and how our greatest sorrows can serve others. It reminds me of a saying that hangs in rooms where I've found comfort and hope — You are no longer alone.

Poet Desiree McKenzie wore a suit the colour of a hot pink bougainvillea when she opened for Rupi Kaur at Massey Hall in December. Here she is: Hey Dad. Hands up, Toronto!

​This is my messy today playlist. It reminds me of my teenage bedroom, and I'm shy about sharing it. Finding the music for today is a big joy. I still want to find a story to fit John Cougar Mellencamp's Pink Houses and The Who's Eminence Front. 

​I took a photo of the level crossing at Geary and Bartlett Avenues every morning I've worked since June. It's one of the last things I see before I put on my chef jacket. A reminder of how grateful and how small I am. This is 6:56 a.m. on Friday, December 16. 

My social media is tilted toward the arts. It brings me so much pleasure. I know you see it because enough of you tell me how much you enjoy my Instagram Stories. Here are a few of my favourite accounts from this year.

2023 marks a decade of writing. I can clearly see the investment. Telling some of the stories has been like kintsugi for my life — pouring gold into the cracks.

I want to see a more significant return this year. During the holidays I've been writing fiction. It's fun and there's a learning curve. I'm treating it like an adventure, outcome unknown. 

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​Can’t you see 
I gotta be me
Ain’t nobody 
Just like this
I gotta be me
Baby hit or miss